主题：【原创】情人节，故事之初恋- 一不留神变成了三角(0) -- coo

这是走向成熟的第一步。太年轻人不知道在爱情上做妥协。气太盛，让个二人的结合体充满了动荡而变的十分的不安全。

乃说的对。所有的糟糕的婚姻或者RELATIONSHIP，最后变的不可收拾了，绝大多数是因为一方太强悍而不讲规则，而不时缺乏爱。所以爱不是让爱情走向婚姻的保证，而是扑森拉里提。

BIG HEART and Broad-minded/tolerance is one of the musts for a "mature" man?

You're right, sometimes, young lovers broke up because they are too young and too lack of experience to know how to maintain a good relationship, IT TAKES TIME, and UNDERSTANDING, and ENOUGH LOVE, and BIG ENOUGH HEART...

Comparatively, falling into love is easy, marriage is much much more complicated, though, young people don't know the DIFFICULTIES at the first time they feel the love...

love is destiny, while marriage is "conditional"....

I agree with you that man needs a big heart and broad-minded if he wants to be addressed as a mature man. It is.

In China, a lot of couples still stay together though they have a lot of issues. Family violence could be the way that keeps the couple inside marriage, which is entirely forbidden in States. According the traditional Chinese views, this cannot be termed as family violence, and it is part of life, because the their parents used to do.

The relationship becomes extremely weak when the couple comes to States, because life is too uncertain to them. One has to worry about keeping a job, or continuing one's studies, and issues alike. One single mistake might ruin his entire life. Therefore the tolerance for any mistakes drops dramatically. Probably a slight family violence can entirely change one's life. I believe this happened many times before, and it would happen again and again...

By the way, the love for oversea guys are not that romantic, neither it is idealistic. Loneness pulls two close.