主题：恋爱中如何识别和摆脱loser，男女都适用 -- coo
乃这么冰雪，我明白了乃的意思了。
我不信还有别人看懂了。
显然你没犯什么错误也一直会被批评，恐怕以后的生活状态就一直是这样的了：你一直被批评，需要一直承认错误，虽然你并不认为自己做错了什么。
如果你能接受这样的模式作为生活常态，就继续交往，因为你认为她毕竟是个好女孩；但假如你受不了一直被批评，就得有办法让她别总批评你，这就得改变你自己或改变她。但，俗话说“江山易改，本性难移”，无论改变谁，基本上都是：很难。
我倒是见过一直“女批评/男被批评”的两口子，到老也没分开，就不知道事主自我感觉如何了。
今天终于说了，还是决定放手了，虽然真的很舍不得
她哭的很厉害
不知道自己会不会后悔，只是她说的问题我真的没法解决。。。。
痛也好，幸福也好，都是生活的一部分，是你为成长的付出的代价。
我怎么看这位小兄弟的行为比他太太更象LOSER呢?
有输八起人，然后报复，伤害对方的的意思。
下面也有人提到了，你面对问题有些不成熟。这直接导致你说出来的话可能加入了你不成熟的加工，我们这些外人很难帮助找到问题症结和解决办法。
只能说，至少你应该先成熟起来。结婚的人了，虽说现在主张男女平等，但是总归是男的在婚姻中应该多承担一点。好好想想你自己想要什么，不想要什么，有什么问题，有什么办法解决问题。不要想什么你爸妈怎么想，你朋友怎么想，其他人怎么想。他们能代替你过日子吗？把这些事情想明白了，和你太太谈一谈。根据谈话结果做下一步决定。
平时我经常给人讲道理，结果事情到了自己身上，自己也不过如此
哈哈~~~~~
长痛不如短痛。
你下决心离，对你对她，都是解脱，尽管她当时也许意识不到这一点。
感慨，现在国内的大学真是自由啊。
now, is how you will be treated (maybe)3/5/7/10 years later, just a matter of time...
no love is permanent, since no woman could be permanent beautiful, and forever pretend to be weak, and shut up or stop thoughts and to be herself for too long...
if not rich or free enough, don't gamble on LOVE, it's too heavy and may not be the price you are able to pay. try to stay awake and open-eye/mind as often and long as u can, to minimize possible loss in case...
good friend first, then possible lover, is a right investment decision way... hehe, kidding...
take care...
很多人吃不起亏，就走极端，同归与尽。其实到底恋爱该怎么谈，婚姻该是怎么样的，大家都木个准，都是摸着石头过河。你说的对，所以，最后是个成本问题。女人的成本贬值的比男人的看起来要快一些。
so surprised by the "word/definition"...
when u love someone, it's so happy to be able to do s.th to make her/him happy, no complain at all...
love is not a trade, (like marriage), there always be sunshine when u are in love, the whole life becomes new and meaningful because of another one, and a new world come to u due to the relationship... could there be any accounting measurement for love?
it's said: u become a fool when in love, why? because no calculation, no rationality, like not in reality anymore... like a dream...
so at least, the love already is not true and pure, or one of them has personality or characteristics issue, and then the TRADE starts to be measured, and then LOSS or benefit becomes issue/concern for some one, meaning it's time for one of them to WITHDRAW ASAP, not the right candidate for partner, time to change.
Well, maybe i am too idealistic, just for discussion.
Love is Beautiful, and really makes life happy and meaningful... Though might also deep hurt sometimes, it deserves when u meet someone that deserves ur love, good to experience then totally innocent--personal opinion... :-)
good relationship should never lead to death, unless one met Mr. Wrong...
Thanks for the post, and the discussion, :-), have a nice weekend!