主题：恋爱中如何识别和摆脱loser，男女都适用 -- coo
At the right time you meet the right guy. However, not every girl/boy is that lucky. Most likely, her/his first love might end up with a broken heart/or hearts.
See, it is not a well-defined issue that who is the one that deserves your love. You have no love experience at all before you try it.
Now the strategy becomes how to manage one's life when meeting a wrong guy/gal. At the first place, one should not let love entirely mess up one's life. Being oneself, then he is able to face the life without that wrong guy/gal.
The failed relationship might not be any one's fault at all, neither guy/gal's nor yours. Presumably it is just because two cannot get along, and it is simply a wrong match. So, one needs cool down and makes a right decision.
the teaching...
u are right: "Most likely, her/his first love might end up with a broken heart/or hearts. " But even with a broken heart, u still have sweet memory left, right?
And agree:
"Now the strategy becomes how to manage one's life when meeting a wrong guy/gal. At the first place, one should not let love entirely mess up one's life. Being oneself, then he is able to face the life without that wrong guy/gal."
Fulfilling one's life with something else, and let time to cure the broken heart, is a right strategy. Never (try not) to lose ONESELF, in a relationship, could be a 'mature" way to deal with the issue.
We all grow after we fall down, and we learn from experience; then, next time, we know how to cherish/treasure the lover, with more knowledge, skills, and much bigger heart...
a good relationship is memorable for life, even if they seperate at the end in case...
teaching.
The purpose of introducing this article to friends in cchere.com is to let them know to protect oneself. For whatever reason, you have to break a relationship with sb. It could be yours or the other's fault. So one has to know how to find the bottom line in a failed love. One should not be a victim of a failed love whereas the other hurt him/her unreasonably, simply because of losing self control. Don't play his/her game.
"毁灭性的恋爱关系，must lead to 严重的身心伤害"... agree with u on the conclusion.
it ever happened: woman was killed/face damaged/defamed/violently treated... and that same situation could happen again and again...very horrible...and UNHEALTHY...
So it's really important to choose the RIGHT one, when selecting partner. if 2 can't live well for a short time, how can they share/spend the rest of whole life...can't imagine...
I guess that happened in China, most likely in northern China. The situation in States is entirely different. Here family violence is strictly forbidden and the husband could be thrown into jail, or prevent from going home if the wife makes such a request. Shouting or yelling is considered a kind of violence. Many Chinese males have such troubles when they have a family fight against their wives...
So for Chinese males, they really have to open their eyes widely when they are choosing females as their wives.
Both should be very careful when looking for "the other half", "due care" at the beginning, then, 始不乱，终不弃， 慎始慎终，方为圆满。LIFE is not easy, so is love...
In reality, the situation is by far complicated, particularity to oversea Chinese. Cohabitation is more a proper word to describe the love affairs. It might be more than love that results in cohabitation. That is life, established by the facts around. Obviously let those people know how to manage relationship is quite necessary.
Would it be possible for you to teach how to find the bottom line in a failed love? thank u very much.
你该怎么对待他/她，特别是3，5，7年以后呢
没有爱是永恒的，没有女人可以终身美丽，假装弱势是不能长久的
如果没有经济基础，不要尝试爱情，太沉重，一般人无法承受，
永远清醒的去考虑问题，友谊比爱情保鲜
爱情不是要求，而是给予
爱是无私的，在爱的时候，心是开朗的
爱情会让人变傻
现在爱情已经不再单纯和真实，爱情观被提出来了。
对待成为了问题
这样的爱，不是爱情
爱情是浪漫的，是理想化的，让人快乐的
PS:因为太酸了，翻译到一半，我就哭了...
爱情总是碰不上的，每个人的运气各不一样，经常有人心碎。
所以我才教导爱情中的人放弃一些错误的想法和学习怎么去爱。
先求不要碰伤这样的人，再说怎么爱。
爱情总是人的错误，错误的配对一样带来悲剧，所以才需要冷静抉择
但是爱过之后还有美好的回忆
不是吗？
那么即使错误也是那么的美好，不要迷失，保持自我，爱情是成熟的阶梯
只有失败者才能成长，我们才会更好的爱
PS:已经诗意盎然，我暴走了
我就失败了，我要报复，我要把她抢回来，再抛弃，再去救活她
你们有意见吗？
会变成某些输不起的人的动机和借口
不能让女孩子受到伤害（COO同学很有骑士风度）
选择比努力重要，爱情是经过，婚姻是目的，不要幻想