主题：当婚姻走进死胡同........-----一位伤心男人的感言 -- sunchips
我们一起来这里时是两手空空的,这些我不怕,因为我有双手,刚来时的新移民大都有失落
感,偶尔也操嘴,不过我是工作造做,可以领EI时我都不拿,照样去做新工作,我觉的在这里男
人应该撑起家,应该尽责,刚开始时我的工作也不好,可也没有怨言,因为我肯干,公司就把我
提拔起来,工资也快速增长,于是第二年有了小孩,第三年买了屋子,然后我们也回去过一趟,
今年我妈来这里,当我妈下飞机到家不到半小时,我在喂小孩吃饭,她对我妈说的第一句话就
是"你不喂小孩吃饭以后就把你当菩萨供着",当她的6个月签证快到期时我想再延期,她不同
意,商量了两次都不行,行的条件是马上申请她父母来这里定居(她妈已来过这里一次),于是
我就不要她帮忙,我就自己填表,她做在边上唠叨我不理,于是她突然拿起铁台灯对着我的脑
袋砸下去,我也愤怒,对着老公下手这么狠,就还她一拳,之后她挂911,警察让我离家.只后我
们较少说话,她跟我妈从来都不说话的,她说我不关心她,不爱她.直到这次事件的发生:那天
星期六我加班回来,她打电话回家要让小孩跟她妈说话,可是小孩拼命哭要我妈抱(小孩不到
两岁),她硬是把小孩关在房间里哭,我实在忍不住就过去说她,她把门使劲一甩,也不知道怎
么了,我甩了她一巴掌,她挂911,警察来了我说我打了她一巴掌,之后我就被拷走了,那天晚
上12点多,把我放出来,并对我说从此我不能回家,也不能打电话回家,而且下个月还要上法
廷,我走在无人的大街上,掉下了眼泪,我有家不能归!!!现在我把我妈送走了,我只好去租房
子了,我班照上,房子贷款照还,只是不能回到我一手打造出来的家,流浪在这美丽的温哥华
街头,我该怎么办?
婚姻如同两人一起攀登。若因各方面观念，如金钱观，为人处世都无法协调一致而导致步调不协调，那么，促使两人共同前进的红丝带－－婚姻，便成了双方向前的绊脚石了。唯一解决的方法就是将红丝带解开，也就是令婚姻解体。
我明白一定会有伤痛的。但，短的是人生，长的是苦难（张爱玲语）。
Good luck
无言～
有的家庭，可以survive
有的家庭, 却不幸结体。
如果他们能相信“两人一条心，黄土变成金”的道理，他们的日子
不应该这么狼狈。
1. Communication
What is the root cause for your problem? The personalities or difficulties in reality? Ask yourself: Why does this happen? What is your purpose (expected result)? How to achieve your purpose? Think about the alternatives, and try to get the best solution. CALM DOWN and CONTEMPLATE!
It is hard for others to tell what to do, and you are the one who is responsible for your life. What people here could dedicate is friendship, warmth, suggestion and encouragement...
2. Patience and tolerance
It takes time for your communication and mutual understanding. A lot of patience, tolerance, consideration, and generosity are needed.
Recommended articles:
http://www.cchere.com/article/120;ID=47072 (^-^)
3. Preparation for divorce
It may be the worst result. If you really find the problem difficult to handle, maybe you could consider it one of the ways you need to prepare.
BTW, MEN SHOULD NOT FIGHT WITH / BEAT WOMEN. TOLERANCE IS IMPORTANT! WOMEN NEED TO BE LOVED, AND HATE TO BE HURT!!!
Please be confident about yourself, you will get it over. Have a "To do list", and follow your steps one by one. You should know what to do, right?
Life is beautiful! Be a strong man with positive attitude! ^-^
http://www.cchere.com/article/110;ID=47459
遇知音,真高兴!!!!!!
I also feel happy to know many friends here. It is a nice culture place for people to have communication. I like people here, ^-^.